Stress is not something I am grateful for. Whenever people ask how much money is enough the answer should be enough to where there is no stress. Now this will vary for every person out there as to how much that is, but that should be the goal. Find a life you’re comfortable with and get enough money to where there is no stress. The big issue I have is I forget the situation of taking care of an aging parent is inherently stressful. I have focused so much on the loss of my father that I, at times, have forgotten everything exists for the care of my mother.
This is what my parent’s worked for. To live without stress in their wanning years. There are assets. They exist and they can and have been used for their care. I need to look at things from this perspective. The money is shrinking and I would like to get it to a place where income covers everything, but if I can’t the assets exist to make it through the remaining years.
The most difficult part is how difficult the rest of the world decides to make things. Every place has different procedures. And just because one method worked at one place doesn’t mean it will work at another. Not everyone follows the same set of rules.
That is where I found myself yesterday because the investment account being unwatched online by a member of the family isn’t good and needed to be corrected. It is why we have the POA, and that is what I had to use, but unlike the business attorneys the financial advisors wouldn’t accept the draft pdf and the signed signature page as proof. They wanted to entire document scanned, and my phone is my scanner. I ended up going to Kinko’s to get it done, and hopefully this is acceptable to them.
I didn’t want to simply make-up an e-mail address for my mother because it wouldn’t have been her e-mail, and while it would have given us access someone could have called it fraud, and if we have the legal means to do something we should do it that way. The world should just be more compliant and stop treating me like I’m trying to do something untoward.
I am grateful I got my part of that done, and hopefully everything is accepted and dealt with my the end of today. The funny part is I wanted to meet in person and if we’d just set-up one in person meeting it would have taken less time than all these back and forth e-mails. Could have gotten everything done and dusted in one 15 minute meeting instead of all these wasted days on e-mails.
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